Mr and Mrs' 3 Lessons They Will Teach Their Kids!

I have always known that raising a child is an incredibly important job, but only recently have I started fully understanding the pressure that comes with being a parent. A child’s entire life rests on their parents’ shoulders. And not just for basic survival like food and shelter, but also their confidence, their temperament, and their ability to succeed in life as an adult. While this deeper realization is probably one of the reasons I have been hesitant to start that next chapter, I know that eventually we will because we do want kids. As we approach this next chapter I’ve thought a lot about the kind of mom I want to be and the lessons I want to teach my little ones. Below are what I consider the most important lessons for Rob and I to pass on.  

~Don’t be a jerk to anyone, ever. -- You can be the smartest, richest, most successful person in the room, but if you put other people down, make them feel like less of a person, or try to deny them their happiness, then none of that other stuff matters. If you are ever in doubt, first ask yourself “What would Grandma Mitzi do?” and then listen to Tim Mcgraw's song Humble and Kind.  

~Someone coming into your personal space is a privilege not a right. -- And the same goes when you want to be in someone else’s personal space. No one, including family, can decide for you who gets that privilege. If you don’t want a hug from great aunt Wilma, you don’t have to hug her. If you don’t want to hold mine or daddy’s hand, you don’t have to (unless we are crossing a street or walking in a parking lot). If you don’t want someone to kiss you, touch you etc, you can tell them no and stand by that decision no matter what they say. And also know, that privilege can be revoked at any time for any reason. It is your personal space to decide who is allowed in it and who is not.

~Family is number one. -- We are all brought up in a unique situation with unique people and that creates a bond that is equal to none. They are on your team and you are on their team no matter what game life is throwing your way. This includes cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents too. There is a very special feeling that comes with spending time with family. It is safe, comfortable and home.

Even after I make the mistakes that I will undoubtedly make, I will feel I have succeeded as a parent if my kids master these three lessons and take them with them into adulthood.

Happy Thanksgiving Day Vibes

Today is Thanksgiving! I am very thankful and happy to be spending time with my SoCal family this year. We started the day like we have every year for the last four years by running a 4 mile turkey trot-esque race. It is a tradition that I love and hate. I don’t enjoy running for that long, but I love getting a workout in before we hunker down to stuff our faces. I also really enjoy that I have this tradition with my cousins and Rob. I hope we can keep it up for years to come. IMG_5442

I am missing my sister who is on a European adventure right now and I am also missing my aunt, uncle and cousins on the east coast that we celebrated with last year. But I am grateful to be enjoying delicious food (especially the grits ***link***) and catching up with everyone!

My Favorite Thanksgiving Dish

Thanksgiving has been a holiday that I’ve looked forward to since I can remember. Not only was it exciting because we got to see our cousins from Santa Barbara, but it was also full of delicious food. When I was younger, my mom’s side of the family enjoyed Thanksgiving at a restaurant in Los Gatos. My favorite dishes then were the mashed potatoes and the raviolis. My cousins and I would walk around the room after the ravioli course and try to persuade other family members to give us their raviolis instead of eating them! Now we celebrate with a smaller group of family at my aunt and uncle’s house in Santa Barbara, and we enjoy a home cooked Thanksgiving meal. My aunt works for weeks on the menu and setting it up (she is my party planning idol!). The traditional Thanksgiving raviolis didn’t live past celebrating at the restaurant (I am waiting for them to make a comeback though!) but there are still delicious dishes to enjoy. One in particular is my grandma’s best friend’s grits. They are full of flavor and deliciously cheesy!

Edie’s Grits

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1 qt. Whole Milk 1 C. Regular Grits ⅔ C. Butter (Julia Child would be proud!) 1 Tsp. Salt 2 Beaten Eggs 8 Oz. Swiss or Gruyere shredded cheese ½ C. Parmesan or Cheddar, shredded and combined with an additional ½ C. butter.

-Bring milk to a boil and add butter and salt -Lower heat so that mixture is simmering -Gradually stir in the grits -Stir in the two beaten eggs -Cook until mixture thickens, then add swiss or gruyere cheese   -After cheese melts, remove from heat.   -Beat mixture until creamy    -Pour into buttered casserole (the butter causes a crispy outside).   -Allow to set.   -Pour the parmesan or cheddar and butter mixture over the top. -Bake at 400 degrees for 30 minutes.   

You can make this dish ahead of time and cook right before serving or cook it ahead of time and reheat it.

I can’t wait to indulge in multiple heaping spoonfuls of these delicious grits on Thursday! What is your favorite Thanksgiving dish?

Happy Flower Mart Vibes

Last weekend I checked out the LA Flower Mart with my cousin to get ideas for flowers for her wedding next fall. I loved seeing all the fall flowers, hearing about my cousin's wedding color and flower ideas, and of course getting to spend time together while we are both living in the same area. We have never lived this close together before and I am looking forward to the next few months of being able to hang out whenever we want.