Rob’s and my relationship has been seven years in the making. And the anniversary of the night we met, when this crazy adventure we call life started, is this week. Most years have passed without much change to our relationship aside from our location, but this year I noticed a new level of being comfortable with each other that hadn’t been there before.
The change is a shift in how we act in the moments after we’ve had a tense discussion (our version or arguing). We have both been quicker to acknowledge when we are wrong, and quicker to apologize if we’ve snapped at each other or if we’ve been too obstinate. This new comfort level allows us more room to be firmer in our opinions but to also feel safe that we can admit when we are wrong without major repercussions.
It is easy to have confidence in a relationship during the fun and silly times, but to me when you can have that same confidence during the tense and tough times as well is a sign of real growth together. And I'm very happy at where we are, seven years in.